Short answer
Look for a church that states what it refuses and welcomes a newcomer with no demands. Light Ark Church's statement of faith says it refuses to control people through intimidation, cursing, humiliation or moral coercion. At its Saturday gathering in Pomona, California, you won't be singled out or asked to speak, and giving is voluntary.
Good things to look for in any church: a statement of faith you can read, a visit that asks for no commitment, clear answers on how giving works, and room to say no without a penalty. Jesus described himself this way: "I am gentle and humble in heart" (Matthew 11:29, WEB).
At Light Ark, the statement of faith says "Love and dignity come before efficiency." Core pastoral care and discipleship are always free for individuals, and giving is not a condition of exchange and does not buy privilege. The pastor you talk to in the app is an AI, clearly disclosed. You can check what it remembers about you and ask it to forget.